What is Navy Gold Star Remembrance Month? May is the Navy’s official month to honor surviving families of Sailors who died on active duty. The program — called Navy Gold Star — provides long-term support to spouses, parents, children, and siblings, regardless of branch, location, or manner of death. At Naval Station Everett, the All American Restaurant in Building 2025 is serving special Gold Star–inspired meals every Tuesday this month, and the Region Northwest Navy Gold Star Coordinator is reachable through the Fleet and Family Support Center at 425-304-3735.
The blue star, then the gold one, then the silence. Most civilians know the Gold Star symbol from the small banner that hangs in a window after a service member dies on duty. What fewer people in Everett realize is that the Navy runs an entire month — every May — to make sure those families are not left to grieve alone. Navy Gold Star Remembrance Month is officially observed Navy-wide in May, and at Naval Station Everett the program shows up in small, deliberate ways: a featured Tuesday menu at the base restaurant, a dedicated coordinator at the Fleet and Family Support Center, and a standing invitation to surviving families to walk back through the gate any time they want, for as long as they want.
If you’re new to the Pacific Northwest as a Navy spouse, parent, or sibling — or if you’re a civilian neighbor wondering how to honor the families behind the uniforms in your community — here is what May means at NAVSTA Everett, where to call, and what’s available year-round.
Tuesdays at the All American: A Quiet Way the Base Says “We Remember”
The most visible NAVSTA Everett observance this year is happening at the All American Restaurant, the Morale, Welfare and Recreation–run dining facility in Building 2025. According to Naval Station Everett’s Fleet and Family Readiness page announcing the observance, the All American is serving special meals every Tuesday in May “inspired by their stories and traditions” — meaning each Tuesday menu is built around a Gold Star Sailor remembered through the dish.
It is a small gesture and a meaningful one. The All American is open to authorized patrons for breakfast, lunch, and dinner on weekdays, with brunch and supper on weekends and holidays. For menu details, hours, or to confirm a specific Tuesday’s offering, the restaurant’s direct line is 425-304-3943.
If you’re a surviving family member who hasn’t been on base in a while: the program supports your continued use of base facilities through your existing dependent ID, and if you’ve lost track of how to keep that current, the Region Northwest Navy Gold Star Coordinator at Everett FFSC will walk you through it.
What Navy Gold Star Actually Is — And Who Qualifies
The Navy Gold Star program is the service’s official long-term support program for the surviving families of Sailors who die on active duty. Three things make it different from how most civilians imagine “veteran services”:
- It is not branch-restricted on the receiving end. If your loved one served in any branch, Navy Gold Star coordinators will help you connect to the appropriate branch’s survivor services. The program describes itself as “inclusive — regardless of your loved one’s military branch, location, or manner of death.”
- It is not time-limited. Coordinators provide outreach and assistance for as long as the surviving family member desires. There is no expiration.
- It does not change your benefits. Participation does not grant additional entitlements beyond what the survivor was already eligible for; it adds support, not paperwork.
Eligibility is broader than many families realize. The Navy Gold Star program lists the following eligible relationships to a fallen Sailor: widow or widower (remarried or not); each parent — including stepparents, adoptive parents, and foster parents who stood in loco parentis; each child, including stepchildren and adopted children; and each sibling, including half-siblings and step-siblings. If you wondered whether you “count” — you probably do.
How to Reach the Region Northwest Coordinator at Everett FFSC
The Navy Region Northwest Gold Star Coordinator is housed within the Fleet and Family Support Center system, and Naval Station Everett’s FFSC routes Gold Star inquiries the same way it handles every other family-support request: through Centralized Scheduling.
- NAVSTA Everett FFSC Centralized Scheduling: 425-304-3735
- FFSC email (Region Northwest): ffsp.cnrnw@navy.mil
- Navy Gold Star national line: 1-888-509-8759
The same FFSC team that supports active-duty families through deployment, PCS, financial counseling, and the Sexual Assault Prevention and Response program also handles Gold Star outreach. That continuity matters — if you were already a part of the FFSC family before your loss, the same building, same number, and (often) the same people are still there for you.
Gold Star Lapel Buttons and Next of Kin Pins
The small lapel pin you sometimes see on a parent or spouse — the gold star on a purple background, or the gold star on a gold background for next of kin — is issued by the Department of Defense, not purchased privately. If your pin was lost, damaged, or never reached you, replacements are available.
Eligible family members can request a replacement Gold Star Lapel Button or Next of Kin Lapel Pin two ways: by contacting the Region Northwest Navy Gold Star Coordinator through Everett FFSC for assistance, or by submitting DD Form 3 (“Application for Gold Star Lapel Button”) directly to:
Navy Personnel Command
Navy Casualty Office (PERS-00C)
ATTN: Long Term Assistance Program
5720 Integrity Drive
Millington, TN 38055
Bells Across America and the Survivors of Suicide Loss Group
Two Navy Gold Star programs run year-round and are worth knowing about even if your loss is not recent.
Bells Across America for Fallen Service Members is an annual remembrance ceremony held each spring across Navy installations and partner communities. The names of Sailors lost in the previous year are read aloud, and a bell is rung after each name. The Region Northwest event is coordinated through the Gold Star program; ask the Everett coordinator for the year’s date and location.
The Survivors of Suicide Loss Virtual Support Group is a Navy Gold Star–facilitated peer support group specifically for surviving family members of Sailors lost to suicide. It runs virtually, which matters in a region as geographically spread out as Navy Region Northwest — you do not have to drive to Everett or Bremerton to attend.
For Civilian Neighbors: How to Honor Without Intruding
Snohomish County is a Navy town in ways that don’t always announce themselves. There are Gold Star families in Mukilteo, Lake Stevens, Marysville, Edmonds, and every neighborhood in Everett. If you want to honor the month without overstepping, three quiet things help:
- Recognize the symbol, not the story. If you see a Gold Star Lapel Pin or a Gold Star banner in a window, a nod or a “thank you” is welcome. Asking for the story is not — let the family raise it if they want.
- Support the local infrastructure. The same nonprofits that show up for veterans show up for Gold Star families: American Legion posts and VFW posts, the USO Northwest, and Snohomish County’s Veterans Assistance Program at the Drewel Building. Volunteering or donating to these organizations supports surviving families directly.
- Show up Memorial Day weekend. The county’s Memorial Day observances at Tahoma National Cemetery, the Eternal Flame at the Drewel Building, and Lake Stevens Post 181 are the formal closing of Gold Star Month — and showing up is the most visible thing a civilian neighbor can do.
Connecting the Month to Memorial Day
Navy Gold Star Remembrance Month deliberately bookends Memorial Day. The month builds toward the federal holiday on Monday, May 25, when ceremonies will be held at Tahoma National Cemetery in Kent at 1 p.m. and at the Eternal Flame outside the Robert J. Drewel Building in downtown Everett. The Gold Star program’s framing is that Memorial Day is a single day; remembrance is a continuum, and the families who carry it deserve a month of visibility and a year-round line they can call.
For families newly assigned to NAVSTA Everett — including those arriving during the spring PCS season as Military Spouse Appreciation Day approaches on May 8 — this is the month to put the Gold Star coordinator’s number in your phone, even if you never need it. Your neighbor on base, in the chapel pew, or in the carpool line might.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is Navy Gold Star only for families of Sailors killed in combat?
No. Navy Gold Star supports surviving families of Sailors who died on active duty regardless of the manner of death — combat, training accident, illness, or suicide. The program is explicit that it is “inclusive — regardless of your loved one’s military branch, location, or manner of death.”
If I remarried, do I lose access to Gold Star support?
No. The Navy Gold Star program lists “widow (remarried or not)” and “widower (remarried or not)” as eligible. Remarriage does not end your participation in the support program.
My loved one wasn’t Navy. Can the Region Northwest coordinator still help?
Yes. Navy Gold Star coordinators help connect surviving families to the appropriate branch’s survivor services regardless of which branch the service member belonged to. Call 1-888-509-8759 or the Everett FFSC at 425-304-3735 to be routed.
How do I get a replacement Gold Star Lapel Pin?
Submit DD Form 3 (“Application for Gold Star Lapel Button”) to Navy Personnel Command, Navy Casualty Office (PERS-00C), ATTN: Long Term Assistance Program, 5720 Integrity Drive, Millington, TN 38055 — or contact the Region Northwest Navy Gold Star Coordinator through the Everett FFSC for help with the application.
When are the All American’s Gold Star Tuesday meals served?
Every Tuesday in May 2026 during regular meal hours at the All American Restaurant in Building 2025 at NAVSTA Everett. For the specific menu on a given Tuesday, call 425-304-3943.
Is Bells Across America held at NAVSTA Everett?
The Region Northwest Bells Across America observance rotates and is coordinated through the Navy Gold Star program. Contact the Region Northwest coordinator through Everett FFSC at 425-304-3735 for the current year’s date, location, and how to attend or read a name.
Where do Memorial Day observances happen in Snohomish County?
The two largest Snohomish County–accessible observances are Tahoma National Cemetery in Kent (1 p.m. Monday, May 25) and the Eternal Flame ceremony at the Robert J. Drewel Building in downtown Everett. Smaller services run at Lake Stevens American Legion Post 181, Floral Hills Cemetery in Lynnwood, and Evergreen Cemetery in Everett.
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